Relationship Cycles

We know how important Relationships are and this is an interesting observation that you yourself may have experienced firsthand or noticed in other people, that relationships seems to have a tendency to cycle through a number of phases.

The first part of the relationship cycle we are talking about is that you meet someone and it’s all very exciting, you fall madly in love and then............Phase 2 happens......they turned out to be just the same as the rest of them!!!!?! Any of this sound familiar?

Next we experience Phase 3 which we’ll call “Moving on” – this is where you spend time with friends and family who are always there to give you the best advice on relationships. The common thread of these conversations is something like “there, there dear, you’re better off without them. Plenty more fish in the sea”. Our nearest and dearest seem to have the uncanny knack of supporting and confirming our belief that the ex-partner just wasn’t right anyway and we are indeed better off without them.

So now we feel much better about the situation we move our focus to Phase 4 with our renewed energy. For the next 6 months we spend all of our time (probably on Facebook or Twitter) proving to that other person, at every possible opportunity, you are just SOOOOOOO Over them! And that you have moved on!!? Secretly, we hope that they are not better at doing Phase 4.

Having done Phase 4 we are ready to start Phase 1.......again

It may not seem immediately obvious, but has it dawned on you yet that within this repeating relationship cycle there is ONLY ONE common factor.............YOU

The big question is do you know how to really be in a relationship? Do you need advice on relationships or dating advice? Do you want to fix your current relationship or save your marriage?

A mistake that many people make is that they are out there looking for a partner to give them something that actually they are totally unwilling to give themselves. For example we may want a partner to be supportive, yet we are unsupportive ourselves. We may be looking specifically for a partner who accepts and understand us for who we actually are, yet we have a highly critical view of ourselves with no understanding of who we are or what we want. The obvious example that most people can relate to in this discussion is that many people desperately want a partner to love them and yet they find it hard to acknowledge that we love ourselves. If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect anyone to love you? When you are only willing to give yourselves so little, you will find it very hard to conceive of another divine being giving you so much.

Our reality is created and shaped by our perceptions and beliefs. And we only see what we believe.....interestingly a lot is left out of our perception. So we have beliefs that can be very limiting and disempowering plus we hang on to negative emotions from the past which filter and create our experiences of relationships in the present. The opposite is also true you do have beliefs that are empowering for you. However, when we are talking about an area of life that’s not working for you, we can be sure that present in your thinking will be limiting beliefs, negative emotions and internal conflict. Bottom line – you’ve gotta deal with your “stuff”. This can be in a content free and painlessly way. The answer is NLP, Time Line Therapy® and Hypnosis which are easy, fast and effective technologies for creating change. By recognising, understanding and ultimately letting go of this limitation you free yourself to be able to enjoy the perfect relationship. That’s exciting!

Because when you change what you believe about yourself then what you see in your reality, in your world changes. That means when you hold the beliefs as to what you deserve then you will start to be attracted to and attract to yourself a different type of partner rather than that old stereotype that has been your relationship cycle to date.

"If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." – Dr Wayne Dyer

Recognise now that the achievement of your relationship dreams and aspirations is one of the most life changing experiences.

Remember what’s on the outside is a reflection of what’s on the inside and what’s on the inside is a reflection of what’s the outside. We understand that you are now keen to know so much more about being empowered to create your perfect relationship, whether that’s a new relationship or an existing relationship.

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