Effective Relationships With NLP

Learning to be an effective communicator

Some skills that you need to have your relationships they way you want them.

If you want to know exactly what is going on in the communication within your relationship then the first things to do is learn some advanced observation skills because people make minute changes from moment to moment which you can notice when you look across at them as long as you know what you’re looking for. We’re talking about changes in their skin colour, skin tonus and their pupil focus and dilation even their lip size and shape. All of this has meaning. Have you ever been communicating with your partner and they seem perfectly happy one minute and then for no reason that you can immediately determine they suddenly seem incredibly unhappy the next?! And you think what on earth happened there, what did I say? The change started happening long before their emotional state changed, you just missed it. Advanced level observation skills are incredibly useful especially in relationships because they allow you to constantly gauge how your communication is being received.

Next you want to understand and be able to control the level of rapport that you can instantly achieve and what kind of rapport would best serve the circumstances in terms of improving your communication within your relationships.  Being able to know how to get into rapport with anyone at any time you want is the key to all successful outcomes. Have you ever had trouble getting into rapport with say, a member of your family?  No matter what you do, they don’t seem to relate to you in that given moment. Now rapport is extremely valuable because it means whatever you are communicating to them will be accepted uncritically by them regardless of the content. Now that would come in handy with your kids, don’t you think?

Along with developing rapport and learning how to really observe people, the next thing is how to communicate with them. What’s not obvious is that people think differently. Even your nearest and dearest think differently from how you do, you’ve noticed that, right? A lot of times I used to communicate the way I think and I noticed that I didn’t always get the results I was looking for. But by paying attention to how the person thinks means that we can ultimate improve our communication and our relationship with them. Understanding and utilising advanced communication skills allows you to become aware of the language of the brain. How does someone think inside their brain? This is related to the Internal Representation or mind pictures that you have in your head. To know and utilise this is extremely powerful because you can fit your information inside how that person processes the information inside their brain and then your message is easy for them to understand and thus more likely to accept.

In every interaction somebody is selling and somebody is buying whether it be a product or a service or in the case of relationships, an idea. Usually in some way or form when you communicate something to somebody, they will have an objection and with NLP skills you can learn at our NLP Practitioner training, we’ll show you how to answer objections easily and effectively every time by using “Reframing” imagine having family and friends agreeing with all of your suggestions and ideas as if they were their own! Handy!!

Oh and of course you will most definitely want to be totally and completely in control of YOU so included in our NLP package is all of the advanced NLP anchoring tools and techniques of how to utilise a specific stimulus to control your state any time any place? Just think how you would benefit from being able to control your results simply by producing the optimum emotional state for any circumstance. Have you ever said something in the heat of the moment that you didn’t mean and the result of that impacted badly on you and your relationships? Now know that you can pick the state that will deliver the ideal behaviour to facilitate the perfect result allowing you to win every time.

If you want to learn these techniques or make improvements in your relationships now or you want to be able to discover advanced communication skills to use at home and also in your workplace we recommend either our NLP Practitioner Training or book yourself onto our next weekend seminar “Your Relationship By Design”